Laird: That you have a supposed reason ("absence of need and desire") for abstinence does not negate the abstinence itself.
Dan: Er, yes it does, because the term "abstinence" no longer speaks to the reality. To abstain is to not do what you might ordinarily do or might want to do.
OK, you might have something of a point there, and it might make something of a case for your contention that you are categorically not an ascete in any way, except for one thing: your actual reasons for not indulging in typical wordly pleasures go beyond a supposed lack of need or desire to do so. For example, on the issue of avoiding sexual encounters of any form with women, you don't argue simply that you have no need or desire for such encounters, but also that it is actively detrimental (at least to the women) for you to engage in them, and that you should abstain at least for that reason:
Here, you argue that one should try to "be aware of behaviour that reinforces her [any woman's] connection to Woman. Obviously, from our point of view that's not a great thing to do. Freakin' hard to avoid but not a great thing." That sounds to me like an argument for abstinence so as to avoid the negative consequences of indulgence: "reinforcing her connection to Woman".
Here, David commends Kevin for going to "great lengths" to "keep his distance" from Elizabeth due to the "potential dangers" of the situation, and suggests that in any case, Kevin created "bad karma". Again, that sounds to me like an argument for abstinence so as to avoid the negative consequences of indulgence.
Here, David again promotes sexual abstinence so as to avoid bad karma: "Think of the karmic consequences".
And that's just
one form of abstinence as discussed in
one thread: I'm sure that if I went hunting I could come up with plenty of other similar arguments that you guys make - perhaps, for example, on the need to abstain from employment because of the negative consequences of working: distraction from pursuing the path of wisdom or similar; or perhaps, for example, on the need to abstain from conventional friendship due to the negative consequences thereof: the egotistical reinforcement that it encourages in both parties.
Dan Rowden wrote:We do not have a philosophy of abstinence, other than where abstaining might be a sensible thing to do.
I'm sure that many ascetes (if not all of them) would claim that their abstinence is the "sensible thing to do", so that's not an argument against you being an ascete.
Laird: And I say "supposed" because you guys clearly still possess these needs and desires to a significant extent,
Dan: Which is entirely irrelevant to the argument you were attempting to mount.
I was moving on to a separate point, which is relevant in its own right. That point is that the philosophical basis of your lack of indulgence is an unproven supposition, and indeed that evidence tends to count
against it: that evidence being that you three guys, who seem to consider yourselves to be three of the most enlightened beings on this planet, do not deny that you still have desires and emotions. Given then that the philosophical basis of your lack of indulgence appears to be groundless, and that it appears to be impossible to escape entirely from "needs and desires", then your lack of indulgence actually
is abstinence in the sense that you argued is the "reality" of abstinence: "to not do what you might [...] want to do".
I know that you guys as a whole are not free from sexual desire, whether or not any of you individually is. I know for a fact that Kevin at least isn't. David
might be implying in
this post that he still feels sexual desire, when he writes: "I know that, as a man, a lot of sexual subconscious processes are instinctively activated inside me whenever I am in the presence of a female, no matter who she is."
Sexual desire aside, I know that you guys (or at least you and Kevin - I'm not so familiar with David's personal habits) have plenty of other desires. Kevin, for example, loves to acquire new gadgets and bits of technology for no other reason than that it pleases him to do so. I pointed to other evidence of desires in my first post to this thread - e.g. golf, travel-to-relieve-boredom and drink.
Laird: and I've never seen you provide any good evidence to back up the supposition that they actually can ever be overcome: I've never seen, for example, you point to any person of whom it can be claimed with a reasonable degree of certainty that s/he actually has achieved a state free of emotions and desires.
Dan: And I've told you before that that demand/request is stupid. One cannot properly test such a proposition because this is about one's subjective experience. You can only test this hypothesis on yourself. Philosophy is not a communal activity in this sense.
It's not stupid at all. Of course there's no
foolproof way to determine from the outside whether someone is actually in this state, but we could arrive at a
reasonable level of confidence by observing that two things hold:
1. the person claims to be in such a state, perhaps in response to a direct question, or perhaps through an unsolicited comment, and,
2. the person never talks or behaves in a way consistent with an emotional, greedy, desirous or egotistical intent.
Can you at least point me to someone of whom the above two observations hold?
Dan Rowden wrote:And we don't promote any "lifestyle".
I see. That must be just like how GF isn't a community, and just like how you have no self and were never born, and just like how a person can never be disrespectful if s/he believes that s/he is right.