The affirmative nature of femininity

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Leyla wrote:So, the ultimate definition of what is and is not loving becomes how “other people” interpret one’s actions?
Laird wrote:Layers and shades of grey.
Who can say this?
Laird wrote:Who can say what is ultimate?
Only you can.
Laird wrote:Do you again tempt me with ultimate knowledge? You have failed to deliver before...
You remind me of a big fat king at a feasting table slobbering over a camel thigh who, in all his imagined loftiness, thinks he’s as light as a feather because he has a bunch of starving slaves to carry him to bed.
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Leyla: So, the ultimate definition of what is and is not loving becomes how “other people” interpret one’s actions?

Laird: Layers and shades of grey.

Leyla: Who can say this?
Whomever sees it. By the way, I've worked out what might be troubling you about the paradox that I posted ("Sometimes the best way to love someone is to stop loving em"). The sense of the first "love" is different to the second "loving". The first one is broad, including passive forms, and the second one refers only to active forms of love. Does that make it any more comprehensible to you?
Laird: Who can say what is ultimate?

Leyla: Only you can.
Foxy! Yep, well I can say anything that I have a mind to, but does it match reality?
Leyla Shen wrote:You remind me of a big fat king at a feasting table slobbering over a camel thigh who, in all his imagined loftiness, thinks he’s as light as a feather because he has a bunch of starving slaves to carry him to bed.
Brutal, Leyla, very brutal. But it seems that I must be a powerfully ambitious man, having ascended from subaltern to king in a matter of days.
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Laird wrote:But it seems that I must be a powerfully ambitious man, having ascended from subaltern to king in a matter of days.
Ha! And just the other day you found it necessary to ask who I thought you might be representing...yet, now you seem to not only know, but understand that you might have somehow ascended it!

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Laird, you wrote:
By the way, I've worked out what might be troubling you about the paradox that I posted ("Sometimes the best way to love someone is to stop loving em"). The sense of the first "love" is different to the second "loving". The first one is broad, including passive forms, and the second one refers only to active forms of love. Does that make it any more comprehensible to you?
So, we get:

Sometimes the best way to love someone broadly (including in passive forms) is to stop actively loving them.

The question is, actually, does that differentiation make it absurd and, therefore, its truth value a "seemingly absurd statement which is also true.”

If not, the truth in your so-called paradox is not in the absurd statement itself—it is derived precisely from the truth “behind” it, and the absurdity of making this truth a paradox from the falsity in the paradoxical (deluded) version of it. That is, a paradox is the unnecessary mystification of a truth. Why would you do this?
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Rappa,
Leyla Shen wrote:That is, a paradox is the unnecessary mystification of a truth. Why would you do this?
Merely to prove the point that we started with: that paradox and truth are not incompatible. So hand over my ten bucks or whatever it was that we bet on it.

Actually it's more than "merely" that. Why are poems and koans written; why are riddles and problems so well-received? The answer's probably at least partly the same.

And it's not that paradox is always the unnecessary mystification of a truth - sometimes the paradox isn't in the language itself but in the concept that it conveys. Take, for example, the paradox (whose truth I am able only to guess at): "The universe created itself".

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(Jesus fucking Christ, God help meeeeee!)

Kaffee wrote:
Actually it's more than "merely" that. Why are poems and koans written; why are riddles and problems so well-received? The answer's probably at least partly the same.
Col. Jessep: You want answers?
Kaffee: I think I'm entitled.
Col. Jessep: You want answers?
Kaffee: I want the truth.
Col. Jessep: You can't handle the truth!
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Leyla,

Joking with Laird excites the emotional part of his mind, which is much stronger than the rational part.

He'll only interpret it as justifying his beliefs in emotionalism (the "affirmative nature of femininity").

It is, actually, making the entire discussion pointless wanking.

Or perhaps, you do need to joke yourself off?


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Everything excites the emotional part of his mind.

I see no evidence to the contrary, yet.
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Keep things short and focussed, without joking. Or flirting.

Don't react emotionally even if you're only acting, because the childish mind is weak, and takes cues from its parent.

It enjoys distractions from reasoning, but you need to help it grow stronger.

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Actually, what I need to do is thoroughly disabuse myself of the idea that there is a necessary, mutually dependent relationship between physical age and wisdom.
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Leyla Shen wrote:(Jesus fucking Christ, God help meeeeee!)
Which I suppose is rational and well-reasoned discussion. Whereas, when it comes to my own rational and reasoned discussion, all you have to say is something peripheral from a movie, about truth (you've twice ignored my invitation to declare your own truth), and that:
Leyla Shen wrote:Everything excites the emotional part of his mind.
Not quite: some things depress it. I don't, though, deny that it exists, although I do have some measure of control over it. If I didn't, then I don't know how I would have survived this thread. I have quite a show-bag of trinkets: Kev's gifted me with arrogance, you've thrown a little accusation of misogyny at me, and Kelly has, quite ironically, dropped condescension into the mix.
Leyla Shen wrote:Actually, what I need to do is thoroughly disabuse myself of the idea that there is a necessary, mutually dependent relationship between physical age and wisdom.
And then disabuse yourself of the idea that you are immune from the above statement.
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Laird to Leyla wrote:Leyla: (Jesus fucking Christ, God help meeeeee!)

Which I suppose is rational and well-reasoned discussion. Whereas, when it comes to my own rational and reasoned discussion, all you have to say is something peripheral from a movie, about truth (you've twice ignored my invitation to declare your own truth), and that:
Leyla Shen wrote:Everything excites the emotional part of his mind.
Getting exciteable and impatient about an error that someone else makes, is the sort of thing that happens when one is still struggling to abandon an attachment to those errors. The mind isn't quite smooth in its reasoning. It's just like a child that hasn't learnt to walk confidently yet. It'll come.

Leyla: Everything excites the emotional part of his mind.

Laird: Not quite: some things depress it.
If you mean emotional depression, that's still an "excitement" in the sense of an arousal.

Laird: I don't, though, deny that it exists, although I do have some measure of control over it. If I didn't, then I don't know how I would have survived this thread. I have quite a show-bag of trinkets: Kev's gifted me with arrogance, you've thrown a little accusation of misogyny at me, and Kelly has, quite ironically, dropped condescension into the mix.
These aren't revenge-based attacks, designed to cause unnecessary suffering. They're truths pointing out weaknesses in the same way that a group of engineers analyse weaknesses in a construction. The aim is to fix those weaknesses, which are only weaknesses relative to certain values.

If the CAD designs argued with the engineers, perhaps from feeling insecure, saying, "No, you're wrong, I'm perfectly strong", that would be arrogant. If the engineers responded by saying, "You claim to share our aims, but your current state is not matching those aims" that is not condescending.


Leyla: Actually, what I need to do is thoroughly disabuse myself of the idea that there is a necessary, mutually dependent relationship between physical age and wisdom.

Laird: And then disabuse yourself of the idea that you are immune from the above statement.
I don't think Leyla was arrogant enough to make such a statement without self-reflection.

That is why the Genius Forum is difficult -- it is not supposed to be for academic philosophy without personal ramifications. It's designed to eradicate hypocrisy, by making one highly conscious of the meaning of every claim and every personal statement, and never choosing to avoid that kind of self-examination.

If one attacks and criticises others, it is only effective if one's self-critique (conscience) is ten times more intense. That means one can criticise with intelligence.

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In my last post, change "quite ironically" to "incredibly ironically".
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