Broken wrote:
David Quinn wrote:
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Men also quickly realize that what women are attracted to in men is their potential earning power, their social status, their willingness elbow people out the way and climb the greasy pole, their ability to create exciting and envious lifestyles, etc. The nice guys know this is the only way they will ever attract a mate, and so most of them plunge headlong into a life-long, mind-numbing, soul-destroying career. All because women are essentially attracted to what is evil in a man, and not what is good.
Waaaah! Women don’t go for nice guys because nice guys don’t make enough money! Waaaah! I say, fuck ‘em. Hint: there are all kinds of women out there. Try not to let shallow people into your heart.
Sometimes men look for women who have money. Some men look for women who will cook for them, clean, wash their clothes, etc. Some men want a "trophy wife" to show off to their buddies as a "status symbol" and a lot of them want it all. Some men just want a sex partner and have so little self-confidence that they settle for whoever they think is "all they could get."
Either gender looks at the relationship from a WWIFM attitude (what's in it for me?) and there really isn't anything wrong with that as long as it's approached intelligently by both parties. If both people can contrubute something to the other person's life, then the union is a winning proposal fro both - whatever it is that whoever provides.
Whatever gender, sometimes they approach from the "nevermind" corner - some men don't want intelligent women because they are afraid she will make him look comparatively less intelligent, yet if "the little woman" is an idiot, he at least might think he looks more intelligent (although in more intelligent circles, he actually looks pretty dumb himself for choosing an idiot). Some women will turn down a man who does not have income potential, others will turn down a man who is physically abusive or disrespectful. Some men do nto want a woman who earns as much or more than they do because they do not feel superior when this happens, and what they really wanted was to feel superior. Most people of either gender will turn down someone with poor hygeine.
Some women will put up with abuse, and may be more likely to do so if the man has an income potential just as some men put up with abuse for any reason or no reason at all. Maybe he couldn't afford to take care of the kids without her help - is that any different? Or maybe he has gotten used to the income she brings in and he spends the majority of the money.
I believe that both genders, if they want someone at all, want someone who will be good to them in as many ways as possible. Either gender can also reach the conclusion that it is better to be alone than to be treated the way that some people treat others.
