Kevin,
Not totally independent. For example, our existence is dependent on there being space, and energy supply (food/fuel/oxygen), etc, and there's nothing we can do about that. I would say that the higher masculine impulse is towards not being dependent on illusions.
Of course, we should not be dependent on illusions, but the fact is that we are always dependent on other people, and on the greater community for our survival. And part of the nature of the masculine impulse is to try to reject this or overcome it somehow, but I think it is impossible.
Sue and others talk about jobs as if they are some sort of evil in the world, but they are necessary, you cannot value wisdom, science and technology, and at the same time, reject jobs as slavish. It doesn’t make any sense. Jobs are what create the complex economy around us. We need to accept the nature of jobs, and simply adapt, and toughen up a bit. The belief that jobs are hellish makes them seem much worse than they are, there is an immediate emotional reaction to the idea of the job right away, but if you see that they are a necessary burden on humanity, then you adapt in the best way your personality can.
I disagree here too. Women, generally speaking, have no concept of "great value", or even value at all. Women do not unite with their environment for some kind of intelligent reason, but simply because it is what they passively do. Women unite with their environment in the same way that, say, water does, or air.
Women may not have great values, but they do have values. If you ask many women what they value, they tend to give consistent answers such as, family, children, community, relationships, social unity, serving their husband through duty and responsibility, and keeping a household running smoothly. their values are intuitive, but they are still values. This is a feminine impulse in my opinion, and there are some virtues in it. However, much of the emotional parts need to be abandoned.
So almost everything they earn at work goes towards paying for the privilege of living not too far from work, and paying for a car so they can drive to work. Hence slavedom.
Yes, but you forget that their paycheck also pays for their food, their rent, their clothes, their technology, and thus it keeps them alive. Life requires labor, and thus submission to others. In countries where there are no safety nets like India, if you don’t work, you perish, that is a fact. So if you desire to stay alive, you need to work, and work maybe not all that pleasant, but it is necessary. you forget that in much of the world, people go to bed hungry, and die of easily preventable diseases. Modern civilization is at a much higher order than the rest of the developed world, despite the burden of working a regular job.
Everything is very relative. If you own a home in the city, your taxes are much higher, and there are many more government services that you need to pay for. However, in the more rural areas outside the city, taxes are lower, but you need a vehicle to commute into work, and so there is that extra expense. Renting is probably the cheapest option, but when you grow older, and can no longer work, you have no financial nest egg unless you have invested in stocks or trusts or something. On the other hand, If you have paid into a mortgage, then you can sell your home, and spend your old years living off that income.
The reason I think the competition for women has a lot to do with this state of affairs is that having a job/income is probably at the top of a woman's list of requirements when she is looking for a man. A car is on the list of requirements too.
A man can eliminate some of his burdens by living alone, and taking the bus, but there are still burdens. Living with others (including women) creates pros and cons, but living alone also creates pros and cons. Living with women in a non-romantic setting can actually be quite an asset, and make life much easier, as women have natural talents that compliment a man's natural talents.
