A MAN NEVER ARGUES WITH A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN - OH BUT I INSIST

Discussion of the nature of Ultimate Reality and the path to Enlightenment.
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Elizabeth Isabelle:
I believe that I understand your real point, and I don't think it's really about women (well, for you specifically it might be), and if I understand you correctly, then I agree with your point.
The QRS Viewpoint is Crystal Clear.

What they are postulating is:

Women are unconcious.

Women are incapable of Enlightenment.

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frank wrote:The QRS Viewpoint is Crystal Clear.

What they are postulating is:

Women are unconcious.

Women are incapable of Enlightenment.
That's not true. Read what we say, and take us at our word.
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Women are unconcious.

Women are incapable of Enlightenment.
Are you saying you haven't made these statements.

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frank wrote:Are you saying you haven't made these statements.
Not to my knowledge. There may have been an enlightened woman at some time in history. And there may be one sometime in the future. Who knows?
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Post by frank »

OK, I'll ask you here and now.

If you'll be kind enough can you please answer each question with a Yes or No.

Are Women unconcious?

Are Women incapable of Enlightenment?

Do Women have a Micro Soul?

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frank wrote:Are Women unconcious?
Almost completely.
Are Women incapable of Enlightenment?
Women are capable of enlightenment to the degree they are conscious.
Do Women have a Micro Soul?
For the most part.
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Would it be possible to answer with a Yes or No please Kev?

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frank wrote:Would it be possible to answer with a Yes or No please Kev?
No.
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You might be surprised one day Kev, to realise that many, many Women understand everything you are saying in their own way..

Whereas some men want to withdraw from the Drama and seek freedom by that method.

What I've noticed, these Women re-enter the Drama and generate a Story, put together an Act in order to help improve things...they look for possibilities to Nurture others...to gather others about under a positive Story that connects up the dots...
They don't talk much but lead by doing.

They realise the emptiness of Attachments and even if they have 'things'...they are not attached...

It's a different way of operating...another possibility.

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Read what we say, and take us at our word.
I recognize the difference between what the author of a statement states and the interpretation of an author's statement by another person. Taking you at your word is a totally different matter. I hope that people communicate honestly, but only when truth is self evident do I totally accept it. I will go along with the paradigm that most people will probably communicate reasonably honestly to the best of their ability because deception ultimatly hurts the deceiver more than it hurts the deceived. Sometimes a person's word is not true merely because he is mistaken; maybe he received wrong information, or maybe his logic is faulty.

I do not have a problem with admitting when I have been deceived, even if I was only deceived by my own thoughts, because it is more important to me to have the truth than to try to falsely prove myself previously right. Do any of you guys have enough courage to admit when you have been deceived, or is the male ego that is predominant on this board so fragile that truth and honesty take a back seat to masculinity?
frank wrote:
Are Women unconcious?

Kevin replied:
Almost completely.

and:
Women are capable of enlightenment to the degree they are conscious.
The way that the above was written, it seems that you are saying that all women are almost completely unconcious (as opposed to almost all women are completely unconcious). Unless you know all women, I doubt your authority to judge either of those as true.
Kevin also wrote:
There may have been an enlightened woman at some time in history. And there may be one sometime in the future. Who knows?
"have been" indicates past, and you indicated about possibilities for the future. I doubt that you know all women in the present, therefore I doubt the validity of your assumption.

This would be an instance when I do not take you at your word.
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Frank wrote:
It's a different way of operating...another possibility.
Thank you Frank, that was very kind and insightful of you.
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frank wrote:
They don't talk much but lead by doing.
Now I know for sure you are taking the piss. :)

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frank wrote:
You might be surprised one day Kev, to realise that many, many Women understand everything you are saying in their own way..

Whereas some men want to withdraw from the Drama and seek freedom by that method.

What I've noticed, these Women re-enter the Drama and generate a Story, put together an Act in order to help improve things...they look for possibilities to Nurture others...to gather others about under a positive Story that connects up the dots...

Have you noticed, frank, that you only ever start affirming the value of having a purpose - and in so doing, temporarily ceasing your giggling "Empty and Meaningless" act - whenever women are mentioned? The erstwhile detached laugher at all things suddenly transforms into a knight in shining armour, desperately riding off to defend the honour of Woman.

It's friggin' Hilarious.

They realise the emptiness of Attachments and even if they have 'things'...they are not attached...

So what size is your mortgage and how many kids did you say you have, again?

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Elizabeth Isabelle wrote:
DQ: If I were to stand up for the values of sanity and non-attachment in this society and point out the madness of this relentless obsession with trees

EI: I believe that I understand your real point, and I don't think it's really about women (well, for you specifically it might be), and if I understand you correctly, then I agree with your point.

I've noticed that I may act less sanely when I am in love, and it is obvious that a lot of people act insanely when they are in love.

I would say that everyone, without exception, acts insanely when in love. To be in love is to be attached to a mirage, and to be attached to a mirage is, by definition, insane.

There are things that I rather dislike about the state of being in love and have sometimes had the unintelligent wish that there was just love, and never the state of being "in love."
What is the difference?

I now believe that there is the possibility of being in love and not participating in the insanity of the state. To do that, it would take judicious allocation of feelings, and the ability to dismiss or let go of feelings at appropriate times. For example, to "forget" that one is in love when it is more appropriate to be concentrating on work, and to dismiss the state of being in love when it contributes to painful feelings (which are often a result of looking at something illogically).

Well, this is just a case of trying to juggle the insanity so that it doesn't disrupt one's life too much. Such a strategy always fails sooner or later, of course.

Love can also be a powerful motivator to do good things, and it is a state that can both make life more enjoyable and contribute to one's health and longevity as a result of the biochemical state that it induces.
So can joining a fundamentalist religion. What about the harmful consequences of falling in love (or joining a fundamentalist religion)? When people become attached to mirages, they immediately cultivate a defensive mentality and start behaving violently towards one another. All war is ultimately created by love. Most of the misery in the world is ultimately caused by love. It is by far the single biggest source of suffering in the world.

I always have to laugh whenever I hear people say that they should be free to do whatever they want "as long as it doesn't hurt anyone". These same people invariably have no qualms about indulging in the very thing that hurts people the most!

But this kind of thing is pretty typical of our mindless culture.

Do you think that I am on target David?
I'm not sure. Which target are you going for?

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The target was that what you are actually against is the state of being in love, not that you really are opposed to women.

The difference between love and the state of being in love is a combination of scope and magnitude. Love would be a benevolent positive regard with an earnest desire for all to go well with that person or those people. For example, I really do love all people (it's just some of their behaviors that I don't love). A state of being in love produces a euphoria at the thought of that person which can sometimes stimulate a sexual desire. Obviously, I don't have that for all people (the thought actually just made me nauseous).

I believe that it is possible to be in love with someone even when his faults are fully recognized (no mirage).
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EI: I now believe that there is the possibility of being in love and not participating in the insanity of the state. To do that, it would take judicious allocation of feelings, and the ability to dismiss or let go of feelings at appropriate times. For example, to "forget" that one is in love when it is more appropriate to be concentrating on work, and to dismiss the state of being in love when it contributes to painful feelings (which are often a result of looking at something illogically).

DQ:Well, this is just a case of trying to juggle the insanity so that it doesn't disrupt one's life too much. Such a strategy always fails sooner or later, of course.
Pessimist.
EI:Love can also be a powerful motivator to do good things, and it is a state that can both make life more enjoyable and contribute to one's health and longevity as a result of the biochemical state that it induces.

DQ:So can joining a fundamentalist religion. What about the harmful consequences of falling in love (or joining a fundamentalist religion)?
The harmful consequences are from the application of illogic. The obvious cure is logic. (please see my post under "forum useless for enlightenment" exemplifying a couple dating to see an application of logic to emotions)
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David:
Have you noticed, frank, that you only ever start affirming the value of having a purpose - and in so doing, temporarily ceasing your giggling "Empty and Meaningless" act - whenever women are mentioned? The erstwhile detached laugher at all things suddenly transforms into a knight in shining armour, desperately riding off to defend the honour of Woman.

It's friggin' Hilarious.
Well done, it is.
You require dickheads to rescue don't you?
I find that you require an 'opposition' to have you defining your Pictures more clearly.
I have no qualms about having you work...the taxes I pay feed you.

I'm still not clear about your Picture on Women.

One day you guys tell me using the terms Woman/Femininity acts as a device to generate enlightenment.

Another day it looks like you're saying Women are inherently stupid...or the Female Process has not evolved sufficiently for Women to get a grip on Reality...

What I think you are talking about is the 'blind, instinctual sex and power drive that causes so much suffering'...the co-dependancy...the unconcious attachment..

Many, many Women are awake to it.

Because you are caught up in an 'emotional repulsion' concerning Women...you've become unable to listen to them...
I'm not saying that as fact...is it possible?

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David:
I would say that everyone, without exception, acts insanely when in love. To be in love is to be attached to a mirage, and to be attached to a mirage is, by definition, insane.
Didn't Nature build that into our Psyches in order to get the next generation born...
Falling in Love 'happens', primarily to the young.

It happened to you didn't it?

You didn't design it when it happened did you?

When the 'bug' bit...you didn't walk away.

I can't see that Nature's overly concerned about our delicate attachment issues in that process...
It's more like wham, bam, thankyou ma'am....churn out children come what may...

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frank wrote:
DQ: I would say that everyone, without exception, acts insanely when in love. To be in love is to be attached to a mirage, and to be attached to a mirage is, by definition, insane.

f: Didn't Nature build that into our Psyches in order to get the next generation born...
Falling in Love 'happens', primarily to the young.

We will soon have the genetic tools to fix that.

It happened to you didn't it?

You didn't design it when it happened did you?

When the 'bug' bit...you didn't walk away.
I did walk away, actually. The only time I fell in love was with a girl called Tracey, back in my early twenties. I ended up leaving her after a couple of years, even though we were still very much in love, because I wanted to focus more heavily on philosophy. I was very much inspired by Kierkegaard at the time, particularly his decision to break off his engagement with Regina in similar circumstances (I cannot thank you enough, Soren!).

Because you are caught up in an 'emotional repulsion' concerning Women...you've become unable to listen to them...
I'm not saying that as fact...is it possible?
I've already mentioned in this thread that I have learnt quite a bit from a number of women - for example, Sue Hindmarsh, Celia Green, Valerie Solanas, and Esther Vilar.

You evidently don't listen very closely to philosophers.

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David:
I did walk away, actually. The only time I fell in love was with a girl called Tracey, back in my early twenties. I ended up leaving her after a couple of years, even though we were still very much in love, because I wanted to focus more heavily on philosophy. I was very much inspired by Kierkegaard at the time, particularly his decision to break off his engagement with Regina in similar circumstances (I cannot thank you enough, Soren!).
Now I know you really are taking the piss.

You fell into 'the burning ring of Fire' with Trace for 2 years...exploited your passion voluptuosly...had your way voluminously...and walked away as an Heroic Gesture to Philosophy!
Like a Sporting Hero...I bowled a maiden over and won the match!...
(only kidding, I'm sure the severing was painful...but it is hilarious)

The 'Ring of Fire' is pretty much a heap of Ash after 2 years in the experience as told by most observers.

Kierkeggard struggled with the 'bug' in the height of it's frenzy..his passion unrequited...
Agonisingly teetering between the psyche's inborn sexual drive and his 'reason'...
The perception that life with Regina as Bondage and escape from Regina as Freedom...
He lay in bed at night for many moons wimpering, crying and calling her name...
It's a powerful instinct.

The Cathars in 9th Century France played with the romance energy in this way...
They went about town, interacting with the Ladies and when the 'bug' bit...the endorphins flowed...they would conduct a very slow, spacious Courtship...the Rule was to never 'bed the wench'....the purpose was to keep the energy alive in their psyche's for as long as possible...as a catalyst for Spiritual Growth...'bedding the wench' ruined it...

Geoffrey of Monmouth used their approach in his Grail Stories where you have knights roaming about the domain looking for damsels in distress...laying down the 'white glove' at the Ladies feet and enquiring 'how may I serve thee?'...but never bedding them...
The Grail symbolising the feminine/receptive to which a Man connected and reinvigorated his anima...

There's a guy in my town who volunteers in the Outreach Centre...when a young, frail, battle weary, female blonde heroin junkie comes in for rescue...he's on to it..it's this type that turns on his instinct...
He spends months with her, organising her rehab, diet requirements, accommodation, motivating her, guiding her thru' her relapses...he never 'beds the wench'...he takes this 'sexual charge' home and meditates thru' the night seeking healing and integration...

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DavidQuinn000 wrote:frank wrote:
No, I'm stomaching.
In accord with the Tao.
And I'm wisdomizing
In accord with the Tao.

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I like that.
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frank wrote:The QRS Viewpoint is Crystal Clear.

What they are postulating is:

Women are unconcious.

Women are incapable of Enlightenment.

frank
Frank, what a hilarious drama you've constructed around QRS and Women!

It's got all the hallmarks of a Hollywood Blockbuster.

The Shepherd(Frank), the Flock(Women) and the Big, Bad Wolf(QSR)....it's a scream, totally comedic.

Rescuer, Persecutor, Victim.

Drama, Story...

neural, interactive simulation transposing itself over 'empty and meaningless'.

Made to appear Real by the Mind.

A resolution to the Human's basic existential dilemma about what to do during waking hours.

It looks like Tragedy but it really does have a Comedic element to it...at least to this Observer...

It's empty and meaningless...
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I would say that everyone, without exception, acts insanely when in love. To be in love is to be attached to a mirage, and to be attached to a mirage is, by definition, insane.
Again no........Lasting Love requires Logic and Logical Emotion
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Jason:
Frank, what a hilarious drama you've constructed around QRS and Women!

It's got all the hallmarks of a Hollywood Blockbuster.

The Shepherd(Frank), the Flock(Women) and the Big, Bad Wolf(QSR)....it's a scream, totally comedic.

Rescuer, Persecutor, Victim.

Drama, Story...

neural, interactive simulation transposing itself over 'empty and meaningless'.

Made to appear Real by the Mind.

A resolution to the Human's basic existential dilemma about what to do during waking hours.

It looks like Tragedy but it really does have a Comedic element to it...at least to this Observer...

It's empty and meaningless...
Well done Jason....you've got it!

Wherever there's a Mind...it's structuring 'Reality' in a Story that has those elements...

Rescuer, Victim, Persecutor.

It's called Drama.

It resolves the basic existential problem of what to do during waking hours...it creates activity...

Whenever you are talking to someone...just listen...as the Story they are telling unfolds you will come to Identify the Trio of Players in the Story...

Someone or Something has to be blamed.

There's a Void and we put the Story in the Void.

It is funny isn't it?

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Frank,
frank first wrote:Wherever there's a Mind...it's structuring 'Reality' in a Story that has those elements...
frank then wrote: There's a Void and we put the Story in the Void.
But how could you ever see beyond stories, and how could you know that there was a Void? As long as you had a mind you would always be creating a story, and that means the "Void" would be just another plot device in a story, no fundamentally different than the "Rescuer", "Persecutor" or "Victim".
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The synonymous association of "unconsciousness" with "femininity" makes for some rhetorical slop apparently useful to many who think here. On the one hand, it means to equate one human quality (unconsciousness) with a[n assumed] set of qualities (femininity); and on the other hand, it equates a human quality (unconsciousness) with a gender itself (females). The slop from A-is-included-in-B to A-actually-means-C depends upon the rhetorical intent of the speaker. This gives the terms in general and the genius forum in particular a safehouse for dressing-up misogyny, as well as a rhetorical devise for backing out of it. It serves another logistical, and actually more serious hiccup in thinking I'll get to in a second.

Here are some further absurdities from this rhetorical devise: it assumes that there are complementaries in place [masculine/feminine] and that these have been definitively fixed by some trick of metaphysical authority, rather than being a device of our own [social] construction (so in this, it is an invitation in itself to a lack of consciousness).

Further, it seeks to destroy one half of that complementary, on the assumption that the other half will remain intact (if this doesn't offend the laws of logic, it at least offends the laws of physics).

It is the western dualistic thinking in its blindest form: of all complementaries, one is always "better" than the other categorically, as opposed to situationally, thus trouncing any fluid wisdom one gets from the knowing when of the Tao.

Additionally, the supreme status accorded consciousness is much like Nietzsche's complaint about Socrates: Since Socrates, everything in the world must be intelligible to be of any worth. And all of this is deeply embedded in the deep mists of man's psychic association between women/nature: both are chaotic, destructive forces in need of intelligibility and control. It keeps one's head back in these mists and fears.

There's more (I'm pressed for time). Let me get right to the most glaring pathology of bad faith in all of this: it imputes a quality to the thing that actually belongs to the person addressing it.
For example, the statement that "females are unconscious" is more accurately rendered "I get unconscious around females."
The statement that "females are incapable of enlightenment" actually means "I am incapable of enlightened thought and behavior around females."
The statement that "women are flesh," is really "when I'm around women, I can only think of them as flesh."
It says that "Your use of pink and blue font indicates an unserious, unconcentrated mind," instead of saying "My mind can't concentrate or be serious around pink or blue font."

The list of these items of bad faith goes on endlessly. In the words of the admirably hard-assed Simone de Beauvoir, the problem with women has always been a problem with the man. It is not that "intellectual admiration for a woman is impossible (firstly) without her thinking of Love" (secondly) -- it is "I am incapable of feeling intellectual admiration for a woman without falling in love with her." I think one of these guys has already slipped seamlessly into a demonstration of this here.

etc.
etc.
etc.

This excellently divisive bit of rhetoric (femininity=unconsciousness) that survives so persistently here serves many conscious and unconscious purposes on the part of its users. Chief among these is an intellectual justification of sorts for misogyny. And misogyny thus dressed can escape the glaring examination of itself as incommensurate with enlightenment - an incommensurability that cannot position itself within reason in any way whatsoever. Here's my little equation: misogyny = self-loathing. Properly stated, it is not "I hate women," but rather, "I hate what I become around them." Focus upon the first part of this corollary serves the convenient purpose of avoiding confrontation with the second, passes the blame in a blazing act of bad faith onto the thing itself in some misguided and unconscious deference to Cause and Effect.

In other words, the possibility of enlightenment or non-enlightenment for women as women . . . is really asking after the possibility of enlightenment for men as "men." If one wishes to hold exclusively onto all of the category known as "masculine," one has already shot oneself in the foot.


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Hey, Pye:

Catching up on some threads and came across this post of yours. And what a fine, well thought-out and articulated post it is. Which explains why it hardly received any replies -- except from David* (and that does not surprise me, either).

Almost has me believing in "synchronicity"...

:)

Edit: and Kevin, but I haven't read his reply yet -- so it doesn't count.

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