This is exactly how I would describe it for myself also. So what does this mean for me? I apologize if I don't sound so smart about this, this is all new stuff for me. I've begun to read Kierkegaard and I tend to agree with just about everything he is saying. But since I am not very well read in philosophy (I've been a hardcore math/science/techie geek my whole life) I don't know if I just tend to agree with any well laid out thoughts. Am I just a guy that likes to agree with things? I don't know if I like that. I am pretty stubborn and opinionated also, but I've learned to keep it to myself. I also know that a lot of my thoughts are stupid and not worth revealing. My friend says I'm a person who is content, but he makes it sound like I'm an idiot. He, on the other hand, is someone who considers himself a "skeptic". He is prone to suicidal thoughts thinks that most things that aren't exactly according to his perspective as "stupid" and I don't see it as stupid, just different from another individual's perspective. But that's the math in me. I also think he is significantly smarter than me by the sheer fact that his strongest desire is to be an intellectual. On the other hand, my strongest desire is to be an entertainer: a teller of stories people think are good; I like to play piano for people. You know, I really like that as a fundamental thing about me. I often think I would naturally have been an artist if not for pressures to be successful which led me to math/science and career oriented stuff, which most people would say I'm pretty successful with. How do I know where I stand?cousinbasil wrote:Let me tell you where I find myself personally regarding all this. I have never found a self-concept that seemed to fit, or that "felt like" it fit. Much like being uncomfortable with a hat, or never liking how I looked in one, I have lived without one. Yet individual situations have me donning this hat or that one - people seem to treat me readily as if I were the thing in the concept; in so doing, I find others supply me with a temporary self-concept, the one most agreeable to them. And this is not objectionable, given a little thought. Why would I force myself to decide on a particular hat, since they are all equally uncomfortable? Why not let it be decided for me, since I am not the one who has to see me in it? Somehow I think my hat analogy has not conveyed what I mean...
But I read that thing above, and it sounds like the exact thing I would say, but I can't tell if that's because I like to agree with people, or if that's something that's true for me...or true universally?